Saturday, September 26, 2026

September full moon, haiku




 

RAIN  GENTLY FALLING

waiting FOR THE CLOUDS TO CLEAR

 THERE YOU ARE, LADYMOON!!!

 

Wednesday, September 23, 2026

Guest blogger Navied Mahdavian on How to fight with the people we care about, illustrated

 

 WOW! 
Yes WOW!!!!
"Some of my best friends are people who started out as foes."

_ A voice in the Wind

 

 

 

 

How to fight with the people we care about, illustrated

If you’re like me, you may be conflict-averse. 

IMAGE: Navied running away from giant words that are about to fall on him. The words read “CAN WE TALK?”
Navied Mahdavian for NPR

Should we argue with the people we love? For Priya Parker, author of a book published in September, The Art of Fighting: The Transformative Power of Conflict, the answer is yes.

While many people dread conflict, it's not necessarily a bad thing. In fact, it's necessary if we want to be in close, authentic relationships, says Parker. So when you have a moment of misalignment with someone, try thinking of it as a signal. There's something here to talk about.

"We assume if the heat is rising, this must be bad. But the reframe is that there's something relevant here. I should pay attention," she says.

Parker, who has been a conflict resolution facilitator for 20 years, shares advice about common questions you may have about getting into fights — whether that's with a partner, a family member or a friend.

But conflict isn’t a bad thing. It’s crucial if we want to be in close, authentic relationships, says conflict resolution facilitator Priya Parker, author of The Art of Fighting. 

IMAGE: Three monkeys doing the see no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil thing.
MONKEY 3: One of us has to say something.

So, what’s the best way to fight with those we care about? Here are questions you may have, with advice from Parker.
Navied Mahdavian for NPR
1. If we fight, is my relationship doomed?  No! Think of conflict like a signal – there’s something to discuss here, Parker says.

IMAGE: Navied and a woman sitting on a couch. An elephant and a baby elephant stand awkwardly in the room.
NAVIED: Maybe we could at least address the baby elephant in the room.
Navied Mahdavian for NPR
Healthy conflict can bring structure and clarity to your relationships, and help you figure out how to move forward together — or not. 

IMAGE: Navied as an artist standing before a large canvas with a venn diagram painted on it. He holds his thumb out with his eyes closed, as if studying the painting. One side says of the venn diagram says  “My priorities”; the other says “Their priorities.”
Navied Mahdavian for NPR
2. How do I know whether it’s worth it to fight with someone? 

IMAGE: Navied on stage as hamlet. 
NAVIED: To fight or not to fight, that is the question. 

Parker says to ask yourself: 

Do I care enough about this person? 
 Do I still long for this relationship?
Is this conflict touching on a core value of mine?
By saying something, could I alter the situation?
Navied Mahdavian for NPR
3. What’s the most constructive way to have an argument? 



IMAGE: Navied standing with someone who is dressed for the apocalypse (goggles, combat boots etc.) 
NAVIED: I’m also a prepper, but less for the apocalypse and more for difficult conversations. 

Before a fight, ask yourself: What is this really about? It can help you have the right conversation. Be humble — and curious about where the answer leads you, Parker says.
Navied Mahdavian for NPR
4. Fighting makes me anxious. Is there anything I can do about that? 
Ease your discomfort with this checklist.  

How to get your body ready for a fight

Relax! Take a deep breath and give your limbs a shake. 
 Focus on the present. Try not to rehash past arguments.
 Remember: You have agency. You are choosing to have this conversation.
Navied Mahdavian for NPR
5. They’re confrontational, I’m not. How should we fight? 
Bridge the gap by scheduling your fight, Parker says, a tip she learned from NPR journalist and friendship expert Rhaina Cohen.  

RHAINA: “Someone who wants to get things off their chest immediately is forced to cool down. Someone who's conflict averse gets a nudge to bring up difficult topics,” says Rhaina Cohen.
Navied Mahdavian for NPR
6. So we fought. Now what?  

Take a beat to talk through your feelings. Try not to get swept away by them, Parker says.

	IMAGE: Navied in a little boat with another person. They are about to enter the “Tunnel of Awkward Silence” 
	NAVIED: This is OK. 
	
Reflect on the argument together and resist the urge to judge. You might ask each other, “What are you taking from this conversation?”
Navied Mahdavian for NPR
And remember, not everything needs to be a big fight, Parker says. Sometimes you can just tell someone they’ve upset you, get an apology and move on. 

	IMAGE: Navied now walks towards the towering “CAN WE TALK.”
	NAVIED: Of course.   

Sometimes you have to fight because you care, even if it fills you with dread. That just means you’re human.
Navied Mahdavian for NPR

Navied Mahdavian is a New Yorker cartoonist and the author of the graphic memoir This Country: Searching for Home in (Very) Rural America.

 

Friday, September 18, 2026

Is Soup season back already? Grandma's Kitchen

 

 



Rained all night the wind was almost cold, this morning dawned very gray. It feels like late October!
The trees are still green,there are still ripening tomatoes on the vine, and the pumpkins haven't started to ripen yet!   This has be wondering, OK worrying.   But weather, as my readers know is a bit different, just enough to notice ,here in the Piney Woods

 

Unless i have something planned for dinner each day, i don't have a plan for  dinner, i always ask what everyone wants.   They seldom agree.  I should have known, but today was different.  Just knew that the answer would be soup or stew.  Yup! should have known. 

My feeling is that soups and stews are meant to warm body, soul and mood.  Also that leftovers, family approved ingredients and occasionally gourmet touches, can be part of a great pot of soup or stew.   If you add too many left overs, well someone is going to notice.   Even if you try to disguise it with a bit of  your own creativity.


 

Ingredients

  • 3 pounds beef stew meat
  • 2 - 14 ounce cans beef stock
  • 2 1/2 cups celery diced
  • 1 medium onion chopped
  • salt and pepper to taste
  • 1/4 cup corn starch dissolved in 1/4 water
  • 2 - 12 ounce packages of Reames Frozen Home style Egg Noodles

Instructions

  • To a pan over medium heat add beef, beef stock, celery, and onion. Generously salt and pepper.
  • Cover and simmer for about an hour, until meat and veggies are tender. Stirring occasionally.
  • While meat cooks, prepare your egg noodles per the package instructions. Or make your own homemade egg noodles.
  • When the meat is tender, add corn starch/water mixture and stir, the sauce will thicken in just a few minutes.
  • Drain and add the noodles, combine with meat mixture.
  • I love mine just like it is, but my hubby tops it with sour cream!

 

 

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I was handed this recipe, and have no idea who wrote it, but it looks good.   And remember that you can always make it your own version with some omissions and or additions.   

 

Happy stirring! 


 

 

 

best of the harvestt, a haiku

 

 

 

 

 


 

 


OH!, MY VERY HEART !

ALL DEPENDS ON THE WEATHER

SWEAT, OR SOUR   

Sunday, September 13, 2026

Town Yard Sale day ramble


 I  once got lost, in a small town!!!  and liked it.. 

 Time was i drove thru  a picturesque little town every day on my way to and from work, often stopped at the  family run grocery, or the hardware store run  by a man who was well past eighty,  drugstore, which was run a a man who was a philosopher, a very serious man with the mos wickedly funny sense of humor you get the idea he was living the  words "Laughter is the best medicine".  

Well now didn't this little town know how to get my attention and that of many other's. by having  a town-wide Yard Sale!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  It was a very good reason to wander thru the streets . Of course i was looking for good stuff to buy, but that doesn't happen every time one goes "yard-sailing"and this was one of those days.  All i found was a rater large conch shell, and i had been looking for one of those. because , well because I wanted one and this one is a beauty! Now all i need is and old pump church organ to sit next to it. That yard had a large clam shell. from the south Pacific, the kind sometimes used for baptismal fonts......but it was way above my price limit..  That was my haul for the day.   Still i covered every open streat, and heard alot of good stories,  got a small bag of  simple chocolate chip bar cookies, and the recipe for them..  Relished each one of  those cookies!   Even got  the recipe. 

Note,   Wasn't planning on adding this but, BUT, after thinking about it, here goes.   I choose the picture because it was so very sweet.  It has been awhile since i drove down that street, like 2-3 years, and the house is no longer there.   SIGH!!!




Thursday, September 10, 2026

a wish wrapped in a poem


pause  
 somewhere
 between 

 
 the heat and the chill

looking backward
 looking forward
  memories made and ,tomorrows 

summer's dream 
has been planted


 


the rest is to be dreamed

Sunday, September 6, 2026

A tale of two tillers

Uuuuuh, not really sure why i want to talk about Milly and Tilly.  Guess its because they the most exciting things about this Gardening year so far. No seriously they are, it is a game of skill to weave TILLY between the rows of plants and grind up all of those nasty weeds. The nearly everyday downpours that have caused my tomato plants to just give up, not that i blame them. The result is not stronger plants with large tomatoes, no its it is quite the opposite.  Making this year not exactly regretable, more like lessons learned. 

 

 MIlly has tilled up most of the huge gardens  of my younger years, when there were more people at my table and fewer deer in my yard it took half the day to till my garden. It takes less than an hour now to till my tomato patch now.  

  
 I I would like you to meet the QUEEN of my tomato patch garden for almost 5 decades, the one and only Tilly. Always there for the heavy work, so i could read seed catalogs and day dream about growing giant tomatoes. Her main job is, of course, was to make sure i wasn't too tired from digging by hand to make a decent supper.
 
 
Still have those bootsT they  don't really fit right,never have, over time they have become rather stiff. Maybe 40 years ago,  there was a an old tyme general store on the back streets of the next town up the road. The owners were aging and decided to sell out, got i alot of useful stuff at that sale. Including steel toed leather boots,it still wear them.  They have seen alot of years have, seen alot of snow alot dust alot of mud,most of it caught in their very deep grooves in the outsole.  They collected mud that became compacted until it felt like trying to walk on skis.  The fun part was getting the mud out by jumping up and down and watching the
 . chunks of mud fly.
I bought a pair bright red  longjohns also. Made a Christmas decoration for the front door out of the longjohns.
 

This is Milly, so named because she is "Mini" compared to Tilly.  Oh! those are my plastic clogs, bought them about the same time i bought Milly, and still wear them.Now where was i going with this???? ah yes, 
Millys job is to till between pants and down the rows, light, maneuverable, and no where near as loud as Tilly...and this year because of the rain which made it difficult to weed, she had her. Hacking at weed and muddy weeds roots. That seemed to make weed grow better.

Milly got her name first even though she is much newer, obviously on a day when my true lack of creativity was showing.  Think that might actually explain Tilly's name also.

 

After the Christmas season is over, and the bright lights fade the snow starts to turn into dirty drifts by the side of the road, then and only then is it time to get out the seed catalogs and daydream.  When i go out to the tool shed to get a snow shovel or some of my infamous mix or salt and sand, it's time to pause and reassure  Milly, Tilly and myself that Spring will be here some day.   

September full moon, haiku

  RAIN  GENTLY FALLING waiting FOR THE CLOUDS TO CLEAR  THERE YOU ARE, LADYMOON!!!